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They don't ruin lives or break too many hearts. They merely shag.
"Forget monogamy and just shag" - One scientific theory on relationships: "So it’s suffice to say that perhaps those “commitment phobic” gents (who many women call "Players") of the modern era are in fact not all that bad.
Perhaps they're doing the women they flee from a service by being upfront and honest from the start.
They don't ruin lives or break too many hearts. They merely shag. "
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Perhaps they're doing the women they flee from a service by being upfront and honest from the start.
They don't ruin lives or break too many hearts. They merely shag. "
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Carnal Sex
"Forget monogamy and just shag" - One scientific theory on relationships: "“Rather than marrying 20 times or more in one's life via serial monogamy, we can keep one emotional lover and just have casual, meaningless - and hot - sex with strangers. This gives us the long-term emotional stability we desire psychologically, alongside the hot, carnal sex we desire somatically.”"
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"Forget monogamy and just shag" - One scientific theory on relationships
"Forget monogamy and just shag" - One scientific theory on relationships:
So bellowed the heading from a story in TNT Magazine the other day, advising us to ditch monogamy and embrace free love instead.
The article cites the latest work of Eric Anderson, a sociologist at England’s University of Winchester and author of the new book"
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So bellowed the heading from a story in TNT Magazine the other day, advising us to ditch monogamy and embrace free love instead.
The article cites the latest work of Eric Anderson, a sociologist at England’s University of Winchester and author of the new book"
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Forget about monogamy shag as much as you can
So bellowed the heading from a story in TNT Magazine the other day, advising us to ditch monogamy and embrace free love instead.
The article cites the latest work of Eric Anderson, a sociologist at England’s University of Winchester and author of the new
TheVine - The Slut Threshold - Life & pop culture, untangled
TheVine - The Slut Threshold - Life & pop culture, untangled: "We live in a largely secular society. The people who think premarital sex will send them to hell (and there are still plenty) abstain, get married young, or make heated confessions post slip-up, meanwhile everyone else has adopted freer standards. It used to be that the rules of sexuality – for women – were fixed a 'don't'. ‘No sex before marriage’ is unrealistic and controlling, but it strips women of their agency in a way that some can find relieving. One doesn’t have to wrestle quite so hard with the complexities of desire and the ethical treatment of others when the answer is always ‘no’. Trying to numerically quantify ‘sluttiness’ is simply moving the goal-posts of virginity back a few paces. It still implies that every new sexual encounter you have leaves you a little more degraded or diminished, and that each one is an indelible mark on your name, just with a wider margin of error."
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TheVine - The Slut Threshold - Life & pop culture, untangled
TheVine - The Slut Threshold - Life & pop culture, untangled: "Twenty, it seems, is the sluttiest number. It was the number used in terrible yet compelling 2011 rom-com What’s Your Number, it’s the number 32% of Australian AskMen readers think makes a woman “sexually promiscuous”, and in a study last week, it was the number boffins at Cornell University used as their promiscuity bench-mark for college-aged women.
It’s also a number that, to me, seemed pretty low to cast judgement on, especially if you’ve been sexually active for several years. Twenty is, after all, only two regrettable one night stands, and two good ones; five short-term relationships; four long-term relationships; one hilarious high school threesome; a cheeky fling and three hook-ups with friends. If you became sexually active at 16, and had at least a handful of months where you didn’t have a full-time job, it doesn’t seem unfathomable that you could hit that target by 22 without even trying. If you’re 26 years old, and lost your v-plates the year you became legal, 20 is only two people a year."
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It’s also a number that, to me, seemed pretty low to cast judgement on, especially if you’ve been sexually active for several years. Twenty is, after all, only two regrettable one night stands, and two good ones; five short-term relationships; four long-term relationships; one hilarious high school threesome; a cheeky fling and three hook-ups with friends. If you became sexually active at 16, and had at least a handful of months where you didn’t have a full-time job, it doesn’t seem unfathomable that you could hit that target by 22 without even trying. If you’re 26 years old, and lost your v-plates the year you became legal, 20 is only two people a year."
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Unrequited Love | How to Mend a Broken Heart
Unrequited Love | How to Mend a Broken Heart: ""That's why the book and film He's Just Not That Into You did so well, because the concept resonated with so many people. Outsiders can see it's time to move on, but if you're the one who is experiencing unrequited love, hope delays and exacerbates the inevitable pain.""
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Unrequited Love | How to Mend a Broken Heart
Unrequited Love | How to Mend a Broken Heart: "Everyone has dealt with a romantic rejection at some point in their lives, the one who got away. But for some, like US author and blogger Samara O'Shea, the pain of unrequited love stays around long after the relationship has ended.
When O'Shea was twenty four she ran into a guy she had known in college and they started seeing each other. Both confessed they had major crushes on each other in school and a romance soon developed. "The nostalgia factor played a role in our reunion in that we kept talking about how it was meant to be," reflects O'Shea. The couple dated for three months and Samara says she "fell fast and decided I wanted to marry him"."
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When O'Shea was twenty four she ran into a guy she had known in college and they started seeing each other. Both confessed they had major crushes on each other in school and a romance soon developed. "The nostalgia factor played a role in our reunion in that we kept talking about how it was meant to be," reflects O'Shea. The couple dated for three months and Samara says she "fell fast and decided I wanted to marry him"."
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Desperate and Dateless
Many of us find it difficult to meet and relate with the opposite sex.
Do you need help in gaining confidence with your personnel relationships?
When did you last relieve your sexual tension?
You could easily have the woman of your dreems!
Deal-breakers: it's a big no to B.O. and a mo or Bad Sex
Many of us have that little invisible checklist in the back of our minds for picking potential partners; the things we look for and the things that make us go running for the hills. Deal-breakers.
There has been some interesting research in the US about what constitutes a deal-breaker in this day and age. Body odor was the number one dating deal-breaker, according to this poll, with 87 per cent of the women surveyed agreeing that B.O. was not the way to go.
As for the fellas, 68 per cent of the men said their number one deal-breaker was a mustache. That's right; the lady mo was a no-go!
In another recent survey seeking to understand singles, Dr. Justin R. Garcia, an evolutionary biologist from The Kinsey Institute and one of the study's primary researchers, said: "Deal-breakers are no longer attributed to religion, race or other traditional factors that existed in the past, the real deal-breakers these days are largely found in someone's personality traits.
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"For a really long time, we thought people were looking for partners with the same socioeconomic, religious and ethnic background and similar life experiences.
"Today, we are seeing singles who are much more interested in finding partners with whom they can have real, loving relationships and deeper connections on an emotional level as opposed to what looks good on paper."
According to their study, the biggest deal-breakers are:
1) being disheveled or of unclean appearance
2) being lazy
3) being too needy
4) lacking a sense of humor and
5) distance. "In other words, living more than three hours drive apart," said Garcia.
Bad sex finished sixth on the list, according to 44 per cent of men and 49 per cent of women surveyed so there's still hope for a blossoming romance even if you're not so great between the sheets.
"When it comes to bad sex in relationships, people's age and sexual orientation do matter," Garcia explained. Only 39 per cent of those surveyed in their 20s cited bad sex as a deal-breaker, versus 48 per cent of the 60 plus crowd. "Older people know what they like and what they don't like."
Moving closer to home, what are some of our deal- breakers?
Author and psychologist John Aiken says, "deal-breakers are very personal and can span a range of issues and areas such as religious beliefs, views on cheating, smoking, drug-taking, marriage, work, kids and sex.
"So often, singles don't give much thought to their relationship deal-breakers while dating. Instead we just jump in and see where it takes us. We forget it's important to ask ourselves how important these issues are to us."
Jillian Hardy is a 30-year-old primary school teacher from Alberton in Adelaide and says her deal breaker is simple. "For me it's bad teeth and dirty finger nails, my friends think I am nuts. I know not everyone can have a Hollywood smile, but bad teeth has always been a turn-off, I like a nice smile on my partner, and as for dirt under the finger nails, nothing makes me want to gag more," laughs Jillian.
28-year-old Ricky Francs, a chippie from Cloverdale in Perth, says, "there is nothing worse than dating a girl who is always referring to her ex. 'He did this', 'he was that', OK I get it, some men are douches, but please stop comparing me to the last man you dated."
Allison Bailey, a 33-year-old single mum from Glen Huntly in Melbourne, says her biggest deal-breaker is lying. "I'm a young single mum and I still hope that one day I might meet a nice guy who will love both my son and I but so many men these days are full of it, they say they want one thing and they do another. Can they please just be more honest and say what they really want?"
"You don't need to be wearing designer clothing but an ironed shirt and clean jeans and shoes go a long way in my book,"says Neela Verma, a 23-year-old accounting clerk from Homebush in Sydney. "It says... 'yes, I have put in some effort into looking nice for you'. Unkempt and unclean men are my deal-breakers."
On the other hand, 34-year-old mortgage broker Lewis Garner from Pymble in Sydney, baulks at bad grammar. "I refuse to date a woman that can not write or speak properly - we are not teenagers! While I understand technology has encouraged a new way of communicating, a woman that is constantly LOL'ing, OMG'ing or MWAH'ing is just not for me!"
Kendal Lowe a 32-year-old retail manager from Lyons in Canberra says: "A good sense of humour is highly underrated in the sexy stakes, give me a man that can make me laugh any day, no sense of humour is definitely a deal-breaker!"
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